from:attelage date:May. 23rd, 2002 06:15 am (UTC) Link
I don't think so. I think biting one's tongue at times is considerate. I'll never forget the time my girlfriend's brother asked me to make big baby blue bows to line the aisle/pews at his wedding. About a year later, my friend was planning her own wedding and we were shopping for her gown and she was picking out bridesmaids dresses. As she was flipping through the different colors and fabrics, she asked my generic opinion and I commented, "anything but that crappy baby blue color, I hate that color for weddings, and gagged when I was making the bows for your brothers wedding." Imagine my surprise when I was invited to the wedding but not as part of the wedding party, and sat there horrified when I saw that crappy baby blue color on the bridesmaids and the big baby blue bows that I made a year earlier, recycled for her wedding. To this day, I wish I had said something more along the lines of, "oh, any color you pick will be lovely". I'm not sure Dave is thinking about this kind of honesty, I'm thinking it's more along the lines of really personal, intimate stuff is better left private. Maybe not?
from:attelage date:May. 23rd, 2002 08:00 am (UTC) Link
Hurt feelings? Overly sensitive? She said she decided to just have family members as bridesmaids but our friendship never recovered, even though I did apologize. I think it just really hurt her feelings. It was big deal to her apparently. I think when push comes to shove, people are unpredictable. You just never know what or how someone will respond. So, coming full circle, sometimes being silent is a better choice than speaking one's mind.
from:gurdonark date:May. 23rd, 2002 09:45 am (UTC) Link
I find the quoted statement very true.
I must always be honest. I should usually refrain from voluntering negative honest facts.
When I am being honest in an e mail, I learned the hard way this year that it is better to start with the finger hovering over the delete key than it is with the finger hovering over the send key.
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you know, as if i hadn't several times before.
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I think biting one's tongue at times is considerate.
I'll never forget the time my girlfriend's brother asked me to make big baby blue bows to line the aisle/pews at his wedding. About a year later, my friend was planning her own wedding and we were shopping for her gown and she was picking out bridesmaids dresses. As she was flipping through the different colors and fabrics, she asked my generic opinion and I commented, "anything but that crappy baby blue color, I hate that color for weddings, and gagged when I was making the bows for your brothers wedding."
Imagine my surprise when I was invited to the wedding but not as part of the wedding party, and sat there horrified when I saw that crappy baby blue color on the bridesmaids and the big baby blue bows that I made a year earlier, recycled for her wedding. To this day, I wish I had said something more along the lines of, "oh, any color you pick will be lovely".
I'm not sure Dave is thinking about this kind of honesty, I'm thinking it's more along the lines of really personal, intimate stuff is better left private. Maybe not?
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date: May. 23rd, 2002 06:19 am (UTC)
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GMTA!
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date: May. 23rd, 2002 07:02 am (UTC)
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I've heard a couple of these stories lately, and I just don't get it.
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She said she decided to just have family members as bridesmaids but our friendship never recovered, even though I did apologize. I think it just really hurt her feelings. It was big deal to her apparently. I think when push comes to shove, people are unpredictable. You just never know what or how someone will respond. So, coming full circle, sometimes being silent is a better choice than speaking one's mind.
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almost 29, and i just started learning that a few months ago
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I must always be honest.
I should usually refrain from voluntering negative honest facts.
When I am being honest in an e mail, I learned the hard way this year that it is better to start with the finger hovering over the delete key than it is with the finger hovering over the send key.
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